I've got a secret to share with you.
You, my friend, are far more powerful than you give yourself credit for.
By all outward appearances you’ve got it going on: you’re smart, you wear your busy like a badge of honor, and you’re successful by anyone’s standards.
On the inside you’re frustrated, overwhelmed, and damn exhausted living a life that doesn’t feel like all of you.
There is one question that plays over and over in your mind...
If I’m so smart and successful, why the hell can't I figure this out?
You are so done playing by everyone else’s rules, you want to make your own now.
And you are so done with settling. There has to be a better way to getting what YOU want, and to living a life that you truly love!
You want to Get Set For Life and know that deep inside, you have the power to control and create a life that lights you up.
I have another secret to share with you...
I haven’t always been confident. Or healthy, or fit, or wealthy and debt-free, or living my absolute dream life - traveling and living in different locations all over the world for months at a time (pinch me!) In fact, the first 25 years of my life looked very different than it does today.
- I was raised by a single mother who got pregnant when she was 17
- I grew up in poor neighborhoods, sometimes sitting in the dark because the electric bill wasn’t paid
- I watched my mother live paycheck-to-paycheck, cigarette to cigarette, and relationship-to-relationship...a fun-loving woman, but one who had no understanding of how she could control and change her destiny
- I ate a steady diet of Fanta soda and junk food, was often sick and had no awareness of nutrition, or knowledge of how much lifestyle affected my health
- I lacked self-confidence and battled destructive lifestyle habits for years
- I had no mentors, role models, or examples of what it meant to live a healthy lifestyle or to actually change myself from the inside out
- I had no one to teach me how to Get SET For Life
So...I taught myself.
I’ve discovered and applied principles, techniques, and strategies that have transformed every important aspect of my life...from health to money to career to manifesting my soulmate in two days to creating my absolute dream life, and becoming the best version of myself possible.
My journey began with fitness and nutrition...
At 19, as a college freshman, I felt uncomfortable in my skin and desperately wanted to look like the fit and vibrant girls on campus. You know the ones: belly shirts, toned midriffs, yoga mat strapped to their back, drinking something bright green and healthy, and looking for all the world like their life was perfect...and to me it was!
Because I had no health mentor or role models to speak of, these fit and healthy girls, complete strangers, became my first source of inspiration and motivation.
I said to myself, "If they can do it, I can do it."
From a desire came a decision.
I decided in that moment that I would begin to take better care of myself. Although at 19, I was mainly motivated to look better, I now know that what I was really craving was to feel better, and to care more about myself.
I didn’t know what I was going to do exactly; I just knew I needed to do something. And so I began.
I decided that I would not be satisfied with average or doing what so many around me were doing with their health (and their life)...settling! I didn't want to keep going through the motions, repeating the same cycle, simply because it was “normal” or expected. I was sick of just coasting along, letting life happen to me.
No! I was determined that I would make life happen for me.
So I began listening to the voice inside, that soft knowing whisper guiding me to just believe I could.
And so I jumped in feet first, not knowing where I would land!
Where I landed was my local gym. For the next couple of years I immersed myself in exercise and better eating habits, and earned my first personal training certification before I turned 20.
I didn't know it then, but that decision to just begin to get healthy, would eventually turn into more than a decade long career in health and fitness that enriched my life in so many ways.
This health & fitness journey led to an amazing side-effect discovery that I hadn’t previously known about myself...I had a natural ability to teach others in a way that made sense for them and got them life-changing results.
Has it all been perfect? Absolutely not!
At one point, even after I’d learned so much about taking care of myself and my health, I slid back into habits that didn’t serve me. Going through the motions, feeling like a lost version of myself, and falling back on other people’s expectations of what my life should look like...
I began to push my dreams aside, and pursue more "realistic" goals instead.
Who was I to be a dreamer?
Who was I to do better than those around me?
So I put my head down, waitressed my way through college, and moved on to a nice cushy corporate gig.
But that decision made me feel dead inside...
And so I slipped into self-destructive habits. I stopped exercising regularly, I started staying out late at night...drinking too much, sleeping too little, eating fast food, and wasting time in places (and with people) that made me feel even more dead inside.
That guiding whisper from earlier? I’d drowned it out with all the noise, distractions, and resistance I was creating.
And then it happened.
My mom was killed in a car accident.
She was 45. I was 27.
This wasn't the first death in our family. Two of my mom's siblings (my uncle and my aunt), both died in their 30's just a few years prior.
This time I got the message loud and clear.
My life too, could be gone in a second!
If I wanted to make a change...if I wanted to live a life that I was proud of, that really felt like me, and was true to my dreams and desires...then I had to do it now! Because there is no tomorrow.
Within a few months of my mom's death, I quit my well-paying corporate gig to pursue my dreams of entrepreneurship, by becoming a licensed massage therapist and starting my first business. As my passion for health and personal development deepened, I’d go on to become a multi-certified fitness and nutrition coach, a three time business owner, a business success coach, and a Strategic Intervention Life Coach.
Today, I'm living the life I REALLY want to live!
Because the day my mom died I said, "Screw this!" I was determined not to die doing a job I hated, in a relationship that was sub par, surrounded by people who didn't enrich my life, and repeating habits that harmed my body and my spirit.
I realized that all along I had been avoiding fully committing to my real self because I knew it meant no more bullshit excuses.
I knew it meant I would need to hold myself to a higher standard, and that I could no longer hide behind my “potential."
Instead of waiting until I had more of that or was less like this... I just had to begin from where I was.